Nothing truly goes away until it has taught us what we need to know to be able to grow from it. Life is not a checklist, think of it more like practice. Everything in life takes practice, just because you did something great once, doesn’t mean it will happen again. Or if you do something badly, doesn’t mean you will always be bad at it. When something happens, we need to learn from it and see how we can grow and then move on.
Sometimes that is easier said than done though, right? Here are some things to remind yourself of when you are going through a difficult situation and know that there is light at the other end of the tunnel.
- Look for a way to learn something from what is happening. This will help you change for the better. Take a moment to pause and feel grateful for what happened, and for the lesson you learned.
- No one likes learning lessons, we don’t like being wrong or acknowledging that we may be flawed, but in reality, we are. This is part of being human. It is how we react to this that defines is and helps us to learn our lessons and allows us to show gratitude.
- Be kind to yourself, don’t beat yourself up over an already bad situation. This will only help add to your misery. Instead find a way to see how you can move on and rectify the situation (if needed).
- It is natural to want to blame others for bad situations, but we must look within ourselves to see how we can take responsibility for what has happened. How can we avoid repeating the situation in the future and what can we learn to make ourselves better in the long run?
- Try to be proactive and identify what triggers these situations and try to stop them before they happen again.
- Try to find different ways to react to the situation. Can you “bite your tongue” or be more open and honest with the other person in the situation to have a different outcome?
- Don’t speak out of anger or sadness. Take a deep breath and count to 10, think about how you are feeling, what you want to say and think about a better way to say it.
- Talk to your friends and family and ask for their input and advice.
Until you have found pain you are unlikely to learn the lesson. It is important to look at each situation and see how you can learn from it, once you have identified how to grow you will be able to move on. Looking back and reflecting on a situation help you realize the most important issues from that situation. This is what will help you grow as a person and be able to move on. This can be applied to any situation in your life.